Two months ago, our washing machine broke. Despite countless promises, it’s still broken. This frustrating situation isn’t just about the machine—it’s a metaphor for something much bigger: the promises people make and whether they can be trusted to deliver. 

This experience got me thinking about the coaches, therapists, mentors, or courses we invest in.

How do we decide who to trust with our time, energy, and money?  

The Three Types of Promises 

There are three types of people you’ll encounter: 

1. The Oversellers

 These are the people who overpromise and underdeliver. They charge premium prices for shiny, surface-level information but leave you disappointed, like a broken washing machine that never gets fixed. 

2. The Privileged Promisers

These individuals often have a head start—resources, networks, or stability that supported their success. While they may have worked hard, their starting line was different, and they may not fully grasp the challenges faced by others. 

3. The Grit Masters

These are the ones who’ve faced failure, adversity, and rejection. They’ve struggled, learned the hard way, and earned their wisdom through sheer grit. Their advice is born from experience, not a comfortable cushion of privilege.  

Information vs. Experience  

We live in an age where information is cheap. Anyone can promise to teach you the secrets to success. But true value lies in knowledge gained through experience. It’s easy to fall for the glamorous pitch of someone promising you the mind, body, and business of your dreams. But how often is the energy you invest truly returned? 

I know I’ve been there—pouring time, money, and effort into something that left me drained and disappointed. 

The Question That Reveals Everything 

Here’s a question I always ask when deciding who to trust: 

"To get to where you are now, where were you, what is your story, and who was the most significant person who helped you reach where you are now?" 

If their answer is “me,” run. 

No one is truly self-made. Success is built on support, connections, and the lessons learned from others. Beware of anyone who claims to have done it all on their own—they’re likely selling a fantasy. 

Do Your Homework 

Before investing in a therapist, coach, course, or mentor, get curious. Ask questions. Dive into their story. The ones who genuinely want to help will welcome your curiosity and be honest about their journey.  

A Final Thought

Failure isn’t the enemy—it’s a stepping stone. Keep failing forward, because every setback brings you closer to success. The odds will eventually shift in your favour. 

So before you hand over your energy to someone’s promises, take a step back, ask the hard questions, and choose wisely. 

If this resonates with you, drop a comment, share it with someone who needs to hear it. You’re not alone, and your next step is just part of your story. Keep going. 

As President Trump takes office, which category does he fit in? but lets leave it to another presidential actor.

“Trust, but verify.” – Ronald Reagan